Struggling with a Neville Mindset?
Wondering who or what the heck a Neville Mindset is…
It’s time to take a moment and breathe.
This blog post is going to force you to face some truths you might not be ready for.
It’s gonna get uncomfortable. But it’s going to be so worth it.
“Done is better than perfect.” ~ Sheryl Sandberg
Writing a book, doing creative work of any kind, often brings forth a lot of self-doubts…
Thoughts like the following might frequent your mind, particularly when you start writing a book:
- It’s going to take too much time. I don’t have time to fit it in. I’m super busy already.
- I don’t have anything to write about.
- I can’t write. I can barely type a blog post let alone a book!
- No one will read anything I write.
- I’ve been rejected already and I’m not up for feeling that again.
- I’m just afraid to even get started. It’s so overwhelming.
No wonder you’re not able to write!
It might come as a bit of a shock to you—particularly if you’re not familiar with the Law of Attraction or how certain limiting beliefs can stop us from achieving our dreams—but what we think about and focus on the most is what we tend to get.
What do I mean?
Let’s look at an example.
Have you ever fallen in love with a car you’ve seen in a magazine?
You begin to think and dream about that car almost daily…
One day, you begin to notice that there are a lot of people driving around in your dream car.
You might feel annoyed or jealous that these people have your car, and that’s normal…
Now think about this for a moment.
Did the car company start making more of these cars?
I’d hazard a guess and say no.
Did you move to a location where this car was the only option for people to purchase?
I’m guessing no here too.
The point is because you started thinking about and dreaming about this car, you started being more aware. You started putting more energy into wanting this car.
The Universe/God/law of attraction also kicked into play.
It wanted you to know that if you continue thinking and dreaming about this car, you’ll eventually have it. It’s just a matter of time.
By seeing more and more of your car in your everyday life, it’s a lot easier to picture yourself getting this car, right?
The Universe is showing you that it’s easy to manifest and that it will be your turn soon.
The same is true for any negative thoughts you continually have and focus on.
Negative thoughts don’t mean we are doomed to fail.
We all have negative thoughts. It’s part of our DNA.
When I first understood the power of negative thoughts—after reading The Secret by Rhonda Byrne—I was so scared to think negative thoughts for fear that I would bring them into existence.
But the key to all of this is that it’s what you think and focus on the most that comes to fruition…
So that one negative thought you might catch yourself having today is not going to manifest right into existence straight away.
That will only happen if you start to give it more attention, more energy.
If you allow Neville (your inner voice) to take over and run things … well, I’m sure you’ve already experienced what happens!
More negative stuff!
How does this all apply to writing a great book?
I mean, to write a book, you just need to be able to type or speak your book into existence, right?
All this woo-woo stuff isn’t applicable to me, is it, Lise?
Hold on there a minute, lovely. Stay with me…
Let me ask you a question.
“Why haven’t you written a great book yet?”
Is it because you believe, like some of my other students have, that you aren’t good enough or that you don’t have anything to write about or that no one will read your book, so why even bother?
All those thoughts, those beliefs, they’re manifesting in your life right now.
The Universe (or God or whomever you connect with) doesn’t pick and choose what it gives you.
It delivers ALL the thoughts you give the most energy and focus to.
So if you continuously tell yourself that you can’t write a book…
You won’t write a book.
We are so great at sabotaging ourselves, aren’t we?
So let’s look at these beliefs in more detail and figure out how we can change them so they don’t stop you from inspiring, connecting and reaching your tribe.
Ready to tell your inner critic to take a hike?
Yes? Let’s do it.
The Success Mindset
“It’s my time and I’m ready for the next step!” ~ Denise Duffield-Thomas
This is one of my favorite affirmations. It’s the first thought I think in the morning and the last one I say to myself before I go to sleep.
It’s so ingrained in me that I sometimes forget to really let it sink in…
To be a successful writer, you need to make sure that your mindset is focused on the right things, rather than letting Neville have a clear run at filling your head with all that old negative survival chatter.
You might have thought you had to be a great writer or that you needed to be an expert to write a great book…
And while that stuff helps, it’s not the single biggest thing that allows you to write a great book.
No. Prepare yourself, lovely, because I’m about to blow your socks off.
Is your mindset.
And specifically: having a success mindset.
It’s time to find out what it takes to be successful, and it ain’t got nothing to do with being an amazing writer.
If you have a success mindset, ANYTHING is possible.
Applying a success mindset
So you’re writing isn’t amazing.
That’s what an editor is for.
Plus, you can learn that skill as you go.
So you don’t have a degree or special certification in the topic you want to write about.
You’ve got life experience, and as far as your reader is concerned, they’d rather learn from someone who has ‘been there, done that’ than someone with a whole bunch of theory.
My friend, it’s time to throw Neville out and train your mind only to see success.
How? That’s what you’ll discover in the next few pages.
I’m excited to share these strategies with you because I know that they’ll have just as much of an impact on you as they did on my own students.
And, honestly, having a success mindset is a lot easier than you think and, in the end, Neville will come around to YOUR way of thinking, pinky promise.
Let’s start with Strategy #1: Positive Affirmations.
This was an excerpt from my new book, I AM An Author: Shift Your Mindset and Become a Successful Author in 90 Days! You can read the rest of this chapter and the whole book here: I Am An Author